[Intro]
Beyond the surface of what we see
Lies a story waitin’ to be free
Time to put on that detective hat
'Cause every action's tryin’ to tell us that...
[Chorus]
There's a need behind the no (dig deeper)
A story behind the show (look closer)
Like a martial artist reading moves
We're learning how to see these clues
The need behind the no (understand it)
That's how we help them grow (command it)
When we decode what lies beneath
We find the keys to lasting peace
[Verse 1]
Breakfast battle at the kitchen table
Refusin’ food, feelin’ unable
But dig beneath that mornin’ fight
Maybe control's what makes it right
Or maybe they need more time to wake
More connection before the day breaks
Like a sensei adjustin’ stance
Givin’ each child their fightin’ chance
[Bridge 1]
A few need to knows (what are they?)
Practice safety and security (feel safe)
Connection, belonging too (connect deep)
Autonomy and competence true (grow free)
These are the roots beneath the tree
Of every action that we see
[Verse 2]
Homework battles, bedtime fights
Multiple trips to turn off lights
Before you jump to correct
Take a moment to detect
Are they feelin’ overwhelmed?
Need some support to break the spell?
Or maybe seekin’ one more hug
Before they're tucked in nice and snug
[Bridge 2]
Pattern spottin’ is the key (watch close)
What happens first? What do we see? (observe)
Connect the dots with patient eyes (understand)
Before we jump to criticize (be wise)
[Verse 3]
Quick fixes never last for long
Gotta find where we belong
In the story that they're livin’
Understandin’ before we're givin’
Solutions that address the cause
That's why we take that mindful pause
Like readin’ moves upon the mat
The truth is always deeper than that
[Bridge 3]
Ask the questions, seek to know (ask why)
"What's makin’ this hard today, though?" (listen up)
Trust the process, build the bridge (connect)
Understanding's our privilege (respect)
[Verse 4]
Journal those triggers, track those clues
Build that trust in all you do
'Cause when we see the need that's true
Solutions come into view
Like martial artists feelin’ flow
That's how our understandin’ grows
Each challenge is a chance to learn
How to help our children turn
[Outro]
So next time when behaviors rise
Look at them through detective eyes
'Cause underneath the surface show
Is always a need we need to know
That's the wisdom of the way
How we help our children say
What they're really goin’ through
Buildin’ bridges, me and you
[Call to Action]
Pick one challenge, start today
Track those patterns, find your way
Share your stories, help us see
How understandin’ sets us free
'Cause every parent's on this road
Learning how to crack this code
The need behind the no, that's right
Turnin’ darkness into light
So they can rest easy
When you turn off the light
So you can rest easy
When you turn off the light
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